Just had to share …..
After years of falling into the same pattern of disappointments and heartbreak, I finally began to realize something profound. I had always thought that the love on dunya meant being attached to material things.
And I was not attached to material things. I was attached to people. I was attached to moments. I was attached to emotions. So I thought the love of dunya did not apply to me. What I didn’t realize was that people, moments, emotions are all part of dunya. What I didn’t realize is that all the pain I had experienced in this life was due to one thing, and one thing only: love of dunya.
And, I realized that as much as you can, keep dunya (worldly life) in your hands – not in your heart. That means when someone insults you, keep it out of your heart so it doesn’t make you bitter and defensive. When someone praises you, also keep it out of your heart, so it doesn’t make you arrogant and self deluded. When you face hardship and stress, don’t absorb it in your heart, so you don’t become hopeless and overwhelmed.
Instead keep it in your hands and realize that everything passes. When you are given a gift by Allah swt, don’t hold it in your heart. Hold it in your hand so that you don’t begin to love the gift more than the Giver. And so that when it is taken away you can truly respond with “inna lilahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon”: indeed we belong to Allah, and to Allah we return…..